But there was one comment that made me smile a smile the size of Montana. The state Montana, that is. I don't think it was intended to make me smile...ok, I know full well it wasn't. But because I'm kinda a stinker sometimes, I smiled. And laughed. And am still laughing.
You see, as surprising as it may be, some people don't "prefer" me. Which is fine. We all have those people, right? People we just don't mesh with. People we have a history with. People we have no good reason to not "prefer." I'll leave it at that. We're humans and even though we are encouraged in Scripture to live at peace with everyone when possible, the fact remains that it says "when possible." So God knew that our human nature, pride and judgmental spirits would at times keep us from seeing each other the way He sees us.
Sometimes people don't like me. Sometimes people don't like you. It's life. And when we put things in a proper perspective, it doesn't have to control us. Which is why it didn't bother me to receive a less than kind comment on one of my posts a while ago.
In this comment, the person very clearly articulated that they knew my life better than I did and MUCH better than God did (who knew I was good enough to trick the Creator of the Universe?) and then proceeded to give me a lecture in the least kind way possible. Calling me names. The whole nine yards.
Amongst other things, they referenced my imperfections, and then they told me to "own it."
(Please excuse me while I stop laughing.)
"Hey you...I don't have to read your blog, but I choose to. I don't know your whole story, but I'll fill the role of God as I criticize you. I'll tell you to "own it" and then sign it anonymous..."
Ironic, is it not?
Laughter aside, owning up to our imperfections is hard! Very hard. I've been through some seasons in my life that stripped away the ability to NOT admit failure, but I'm still susceptible. I watch my kids' wheels turn when they are being questioned about something or even caught red-handed. There is an innate desire to explain it away. Blame it on someone else. Claim to be ignorant or naïve. Or, worse yet, admit to it but have a way to justify the behavior based on what happened to them first.
And at this point, I know that we can all relate. Ouchily so.
We women like to blame our verbal outbursts and emotional breakdowns on all kinds of things...including the mere fact that we're a woman.
Men? Well...I'm not one. So I'm not going to say anything. Perhaps you can figure something out. It's safer that way.
And our kids/teens? They are masters at this. Sadly, though the sinful nature is something they are born with, they've obviously seen the art of not "owning it" modeled or they wouldn't be so good at it.
Responsibility is responsibility is responsibility. Whether at school, in the work force or as it relates to owning up to things that we need to change relationally, spiritually, emotionally. Except in those areas, it's more humility than anything else. According to scripture humility is well worth the cost, leading to riches, honor, a long life & wisdom.
So if we knew we'd get rich would we humbly declare all our imperfections? I don't know, but I do know that when we choose to be as close to Christ as possible, it will always involve taking responsibility for our own actions, words and attitudes no matter what happens to us or around us.
The choice is ours...
This choice will determine what kind of life we live. A peaceful and meaningful one in which we grow to be more like Christ or one that is full of heartache, offense and turmoil and leads us away from the very heart of God...the heart that knows us best and can't be fooled.
The challenge is real...
Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.
Colossians 3:12 (NLT)
I've certainly not arrived to the place where I live this verse out every day. I try, but I sometimes fail. So I will leave my anonymous comments to myself and focus on what I need to own. I will try to model to my kids to do the same.
And I'll let Him own the responsibility of dealing with everybody else...